I met my girlfriend through Friendster around July of
2005. But our communication was cut-off November later that year. Although we
were able to connect again thru YM(Yahoo messenger) around March of 2006. I
told myself not to let this opportunity pass by again and I will try to
court her. We became official on the 16th of May, 2006.
There were a lot of restrictions when we became a couple. It was also because of our age- her parents were kind of the traditional type.
I was 16 and she was turning 18 that year. In our first 3 months together we
made a huge mistake that made her dad very disappointed. It made her dad decide
to ground her and never see or talk to me again. What's worse? He thought of
ending her studies. But, with her mom’s help, her dad mellowed down but still
prohibited her in seeing and talking to me. Even though she was grounded we
still found ways to talk to each other (don’t judge us. It was just because of
puppy love! LOL). I can still remember that we planned to see each other in a
mall with her closest cousin. It was my first time meeting her cousin and while
we were there, we had snacks and strolled around not thinking of the
consequences that will happen if we get caught by anyone who knew about our
current situation. When we were strolling around the mall the unexpected and
the worst thing happened! Her family was also in that very same mall! Meaning,
we got caught! When her dad saw us, I can really tell that he was mad even if I
was not looking at them. Of course I can’t look at him straight in the eye but
I still went to him and said I am very sorry for what I did.
Fast forward December 2006, she celebrated her 18th
birthday. And of course she invited me and my group of friends who also became
her close friends. At first, I was hesitant to show up at her party because
I was too worried that I might not be welcomed or her dad might inject and
overdose me with anesthesia! LOL Her dad is a well-respected doctor by the way.
In the end, my friends and I went. Her dad didn’t put a needle in me BUT my
feeling was just the same. I felt numb! Why? She made me her last dance! Just
imagine, I was dancing with her and all eyes were on us. I got so nervous. Who
wouldn’t be? We started on the wrong foot, remember?
Days after the debut, the restrictions somewhat loosened
up. We were able to see each other but only in their house. At least, I can see
her even just on the weekends. I am just so lucky to have friends who support
me all the way. Whenever I asked them to go with me to Val’s house, they didn’t
hesitate. They always went with me. I had to build her parents’ trust,
especially her dad’s. But to make it easier for them to like me, I made sure
her little sisters like me, first (perfect strategy, right? LMAO).
Between 2006-2010, our relationship was very rocky. We
made issues about almost anything. Maybe it’s just part of the relationship and
to think we started young. But the advantage is, it made us stronger.
She started working as a preschool teacher in 2011. While
I was helping out with our family business. We were able to outgrow our
immaturities. I was so happy because she got her dream job, which is to teach
children. Even if I didn’t know anything about her job, I knew that the school
she was working with was so lucky to have her. It’s because I have known Val
for more than 5 years and she has always brought out the best in her. I always
told her that she will become one of the best preschool teachers a school could
ever have.
After working for 5 years in that school, she decided to
leave and work in Singapore. When she left, it wasn’t easy for the both of us.
We were used to always seeing each other everyday for almost 10 years. It was
like 2006-2010 again. We fight because of the little things and maybe the
distance affected our relationship but because of trust and respect, it made us
both understand how special we were to each other despite the distance.
Everything went smooth sailing after that.
I visited her 5 months after she left. When we saw each
other, it was all so new to the both of us. As if we were not together for 10
years already. Now, I know what it feels like to see your partner after quite a
while. I stayed in Singapore for 6 days. We were so happy and we held hands
almost everywhere we went. Being away from her reminded me of how lucky I am to
have her. LDR (Long distance
relationship) is never easy, but if you love and trust each other then I don’t
see any problem that could break you both apart.
Will be
posting about my preparation for my proposal to her in a few days. J
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