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The Blessing

In March 2017, I decided to fly back to Singapore and propose to my longtime girlfriend. Actually, we bought my plane ticket back in December of 2016. But she didn’t know my plans of proposing to her. Fast forward to March of 2017, I went with her family to church on Sunday, just 3 days before I fly to Singapore. My intention was to ask for their blessing before I pop the big question.

Her family picked me up in our house on the way to church and we dropped their dad at the hospital to attend to an emergency call. I drove their car to church and we attended mass. After which we ate snacks at a pizza place together with Val’s two younger sisters and their mom. Her mom has always been talking and asking us about our future plans, specifically about marriage. This topic was on from the time we sat and ate our snack up until we reached the car on our way back home (what a coincidence right? Lol). While I was driving I told them, “Actually, tita, that’s why I intentionally joined you guys today to ask you something. I would like to ask for Val’s hand when I visit her in Singapore this Wednesday”. Just when i finished my sentence, they all screamed in excitement! Lol 😂 (that was one yes for me 👍) But unfortunately, their dad wasn’t there with us so I went home with them and waited until he reached the house. It was getting late so I decided to come back a day before my trip to get his blessing personally.

Tuesday night

I went to their house at around 4 in the afternoon to get some stuff they wanted me to bring for Val and to finally ask her dad. Her parents arrived around 7pm and her brother’s family also arrived at the same time. While people were preparing for dinner, her mom kept signalling to spill the beans already which made me more uncomfortable because I was already very nervous. I thought it would be easier the second time around but, I was wrong. I was more nervous than the first time. Lol. I was looking for the right timing and told her mom I will do it after dinner.

(My advice to everybody who has plans of asking permission to their partners’ parents is always do it before you eat. Why? First, you can’t eat properly and enjoy the food. Second, your taste buds aren’t very cooperative even if you are served your favorite food. All because of nervousness. Lol)

Dinner was over and her dad asked one of her younger sisters to get some dessert from the fridge. He even told Nikki to give me a scoop of ice cream (tito, if you only knew how bland the food tasted that night due to anxiety and stress. LOL). While we had our dessert, I opened the topic.

Val’s Dad (VD)
Me: Tito, kanang naa lang unta ko ipananghid. ( I would just like to ask permission)
VD: Oh? Unsa man bai? (Yes, what’s that?)
Me: kanang… kuan. Kanang. Mananghid unta ko na mo propose unta ko ni Val ig adto nako Singapore ugma. (I would just like to ask for your blessing. I would like to ask your daughter’s hand in marriage when I fly to Singapore tomorrow.)
VD: HA??? Nya? Mo sugot kaha toh? (What??? Do you think she’ll say yes??)
Me: (then I knew he was messing around with me) Mao nang nananghid ko ninyo tanan daan, tito. Kay kung mo ingon siya og “NO” kay ako man ingnan nga di naka pwede mo balibad oi kay ni okay na imong pamilya! Haha (That’s why I am asking for your blessing first so that if she says “NO” then I can tell her that she doesn’t have a choice because I got everybody’s YES)

Everybody laughed and I knew things were going the right way. Whew! What a great way to end the night and to start my trip.

P.S Don’t be scared to ask permission to your partner’s parents. They always have the right to know what your plans are. Let them be part of your journey. 👍
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